Essential Christian Dating Guidelines and their Importance

Your personal Christian dating guidelines should come from biblical standards; they should be in line with God's word. I recommend defining these guidelines for yourself before even contemplating dating. I will give you a few important one's to get you started towards the end of this article.

You need to have a set of Christian dating guidelines that serve as a guide as to what behaviors are acceptable and unacceptable when you begin dating. Until you have defined these guidelines I would recommend holding out on dating until you have them in place and if you are already dating and haven't defined any guidelines for yourself please do so now before it is too late!

You need to have guidelines that regulate your behavior, so that you don't end up doing the things you are not supposed to do as someone who wants to please God. As the saying goes "if you don't stand for something you will fall for anything"

It is very easy to get carried away in a relationship, you start getting to know eachother and some chemistry begins to develop, naturally you want to express your feelings but please make sure that you express them in a way that is Godly without compromising. Having a set of Christian dating guidelines will help you to ensure this (if you stick to them that is.)

As stated earlier it is better to have these guidelines in place before dating because if you wait until afterwards you may have already crossed certain Christian dating boundaries, which once crossed become difficult to stop. You may have both already developed some unhealthy dating habits as a result of not having guidelines which then become very difficult to stop or break.

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Without Christian dating guidelines you will open yourself up to falling into temptation and the chances are that you will probably go too far as most Christian couples that are dating do. Many don't realize how difficult it is to resist sexual temptation during courtship, because they go into the courtship blindly without guidelines, they end up falling deeper and deeper into sin until they cant get up.

If you find yourself in that kind of situation, don't feel condemned but make sure you don't stay down. Like Donnie McClurkin said you need to "get back up again" and when you get up this time equip yourself with some guidelines.

In closing, let your do's and don'ts during courtship be guided by the word and standards of God. Many resist Gods standards thinking that it is too difficult, they think God doesn't want them to have fun, but Gods standards are really there to protect us from ourselves, but I guess only the spiritually mature will understand that.

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Here Are a Few Sample Christian Dating Guidelines You Might Want To Consider Implementing

1. Before I even date anyone, I will pray to God for guidance and direction

2. I will only start to date a person if I feel there will be a future for us together, no casually dating and just seeing how it goes.

3. Before I start dating anyone, I will make sure I establish a friendship first so that I get to know their personality, values and level of spirituality.

4. As we start to date and develop a relationship there will be no sexually suggestive contact.

5. As we begin to date and develop a relationship, there will be no sleeping over at eachothers house

6. Praying together must be a prominent part of our relastionship.

7. Studying the word together and helping eachother to grow spiritually must be a priority.

8. If as a result of the relationship I feel my relationship with God is starting to suffer, I will take a step back to reassess things.

9. If I am being pressurzied to fornicate and committ sexual sin in the relationship, I will end it.

10. If I am being abused in any way either physically, verbally or sexually, during the time of dating/courtship, I will not put up with it and make excuses, that will be the end.

Those are just a few to get you started, you can tweek and ammend them to suit you and add more if you wish. Remember however that putting guidelines in place on it's own isn't enough, you must follow them and stick to them, they are for your own protection. If you dont stick to them then you might as well not have them.

Some people don't like the ideas of rules and Christian dating guidelines, they feel it is too restrictive, but guidelines and rules are there to protect us, that's why even God give us rules in the form of commandments, not to restrict us, but to protect us. For example, if you follow God's guidelines of not fornicating or committing adultery, then you will be protected from sexually transmitted illnesses and diseases. Once you understand that rules and guidelines are for your own good, it makes them easier to follow.

In fact thats why our parents give us rules when we are growing up, at the time they felt restrictive, but as we got older we understood that those rules were actually for our own good, and our parents were really trying to protect us out of love and the motive wasnt really to restrict us.

Where there are no laws and guidelines, there will be disorder and chaos. So get your Christian dating guidelines in place and follow them and dating will be pretty much a painless experience.

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