What are the boundaries of sexual purity? What if you and your boyfriend or girlfriend are not having sex but are very touchy feely. You love each other and just want to express that love in a physical way, is that wrong?

There is still so much debate about the issue of sexual purity especially when it comes to dating. As a major Christian dating rule, the bible is clear that we should not fornicate which means we shouldn't have sex before marriage.

Neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers.....will inherit the kingdom of God. (1 Corinthians 6:9-10)

Flee from sexual immorality (1 Corinthians 6:18)

The bible is very clear about that, and you either follow it or not, but just remember that you will have to face the consequences of all your decisions whether those decisions are good or bad.

Many Christian singles however are not having sexual intercourse but are maybe involved in other forms of sexual activity like oral sex, masturbation, heavy petting (what I refer to as touchy feely). Some don't feel that they have violated the rule of sexual purity; they feel that it's okay to do all these other things as long as they are not having intercourse.

Sexual purity is much more than not having intercourse before marriage, if you really want to be sexually pure you need to stay away from anything that gratifies the lust of your flesh.

It is possible to violate the law of sexual purity without having sexual intercourse that's why Jesus said that anyone that looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart (Matthew 5:28).

So even though sexual intercourse didn't take place, the very fact that you even thought about it is a violation. So if thinking about it is a violation, how much more oral sex and heavy petting etc.

Let's be honest with ourselves, most Christian singles know that some of the things they are doing in the privacy of their bedrooms (or wherever) with their boyfriend or girlfriend is wrong, but they want something to justify their acts. I'm not judging anyone; I simply want to encourage people to make the right decisions when it comes to this area because if you get it wrong in this area it can leave major scars and regrets.

Your body is too precious for you to allow anyone to just fondle with it and just use it to satisfy their sexual lusts and urges. You are worth more than that. If someone wants to enjoy all that with you then let them commit to you in marriage first. Your body is too precious for you to just allow anyone access.

Most Christian singles compromise in the area of sexual purity because they have this common excuse, "we are going to get married anyway" they use that to justify their disobedience. Let me tell you something from experience, not every relationship results in marriage, no matter how serious the relationship is.

I have seen so many "serious" Christian relationships fall apart. I have been in a couple myself before I met my wife.

Sometimes when two Christian singles are involved in a so-called "serious" relationship, and believe that they are going to get married, they begin to cross sexual boundaries they shouldn't have crossed. They become so sexually intimate that they can describe every scar, beauty spot, and birth mark on eachother's bodies.

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The sad thing is that when such relationships end up falling apart which most of them do, there is so much hurt and regrets that comes as a result.

The embarrassment of knowing that you gave this person the most precious and intimate part of you and it still didn't work out. They now have bragging rights over you and can tell their friends all the details of your sexual encounters (which most guys will do whenever they break up with a girl, even so called Christian guys). Is this really something you are willing to risk?

Wouldn't you rather keep your sexual purity and dignity so that even if the relationship doesn't work out you can still look them in the face without shame and embarrassment and your pride still intact.