A guy's viewpoint.

by JLC
(Topeka, KS)

This comment is only my opinion and not the opinion of men in general. I have been reading these comments from the ladies. I can understand that some guy's have commitment problems. I do believe, however, that Christian women are the hardest women to date, espeically in America. I am a Christian man and would like to date a Christian women, but it's hard to find one. For me some of them end up being very choosy, materialistic, judgmental and indecisive. Some of them have unrealistic expectations. If the man is not perfect, he is absolutely no good as a mate. I'm not saying I'm perfect, but I know that there were several gals who passed up a decent guy and would not give me a chance. I understand that everyone has their own standards, and it appears that many of us want the same thing in the personality, spirtuality, and the physical realm. Hence, many Christian guys have to compete for the prize everytime and some lose out. And that so-called "group dating" crap doesn't work. That's just another excuse of not being interested. I mean look in the churches today. It appears that everyone is married or in a relationship or coupled. I would love that myself and yes, many single men go to church. It's just that some women decide to ignore us (or cold even) for whatever reasons or perhaps the same reasons as men (being fat and alone versus the skinny chick with her bf). If this is all there is left in our churches, I see why many guys don't come to church (especially those single and in their 30s-40s). Yes, church is not a dating avenue, however, it does make sense to find a true mate there at the same time. I truly believe that feminism has seaped into the the American women's concious and hurt it. And lastly, I would never marry a non-believer, however, they seem to be the most fun and non-judgmental with the least amount of hangups and drama. Now I understand why many men go overseas to find Christian women and not play the rat race here in America. I don't want this to appear bitter and it's not. I'm just tired of the complexities and trivial pursuits of the dating game. Men can decide the woman(en) he wants, but it's only the woman(en) who will pick in the end. The moral of the story, give a guy a chance if he likes you.