How Do I Know If I Am Justified In Ending A Christian Courtship

How do I know when to break up a Christian courtship

That is a bit of a tricky question, one that you can only give a thorough answer to when you know the full details of what is really going on in the relationship.

However I can offer you the following:

15 signs that you might need to break up a Christian courtship

1. If you have built up a habit of fornication

2. If one of you has been cheating

3. If there has been physical abuse or an attempt of it

4. If there has been sexual abuse or an attempt of it

5. If the person you are dating is not a Christian and you are

6. If God is telling you to end the courtship (but make sure that you really heard God)

7. If you do not see a future with the person

8. If you are not in love with the person or no longer feel the same way about them

9. If they claim to be Christian but do not live according to Christian values

10. If they are trying to get you to disobey God

11. If you discover that the vision you both have for the future do not agree. I.e. you might want children and they don't.

12. If they are being secretive and hiding things from you

13. If they can't answer their phone around you

14. If they regularly mistreat and disrespect you or are rude and verbally abusive.

15. If the relationship is based on mere lust and just physical attraction

These are common signs that a relationship is unhealthy; they might be warning signals that you need to get out of that relationship. The main thing however is to be led of God and listen to the voice of the Holy Spirit. You will know when the Holy Spirit is leading you to end a relationship; you will feel uncomfortable and there will be a wrestling in your spirit between doing what's easy and doing what's right.

Learn to yield to the voice of the Holy Spirit and not resist it; if you resist the voice of the Holy Spirit you will regret it in the long run.

Again always seek further advice from your pastors if you are unsure about what to do. But if there are issues like fornication and abuse then my advice is to end the relationship or at least take a break from eachother whilst getting some counseling.

Remember, it is better to break a courtship than to divorce in the future, whatever happens in a Christian courtship will only magnify in marriage so pay attention to the signs.

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