I Am a Non-Christian and I Don’t Understand Why You Christians Have These Stupid Dating and Relationship Rules and Guidelines.

I got the following as a personal message on my youtube channel, it was from a non-christian who wanted to know what all the fuss was about Christian dating and relationship rules and guidelines:

Hi first of all I don't agree with people that set themselves with guidelines it doesn't make the relationship work in my opinion you only make it worse for the other person, Christian or non Christian .. I don't believe in god, but I know what makes a relationship work and I know I'm a decent guy.... but I be honest my ex girlfriend was Christian and she set herself guidelines and of course it didn't work out, I did fall in love with her and she broke my heart telling me the truth what she wanted, but she walked away because she couldn't stand the fact that I wanted sexual intercourse. she doesn't believe sex before marriage because I believe it plays a big role, I can't believe I'm saying this to someone like u, but I hope u understand how I feel, to me she's now just a waste, and needs to wake up to reality... but to me I think relationships should go with the flow take it slow, and not set stupid guidelines which includes hiding behind a bible stating how to make the perfect relationship..

My Response:

Hi, I'm glad you opened up to me a little bit and I can understand why you feel the way you do. I appreciate the fact that you don't believe in God and you are within your rights to hold the opinion you hold because we all have free will.

But as Christians, we do believe in God, we believe God created everything and he created everything for our enjoyment, but with what he created also came some rules on how to use those things so that we don't end up hurting ourselves in the process. You see, Gods rules and guidelines are really there to protect us and not to deprive us.

For example when something new is created there has to be rules for governing that product i.e. when cars were created we needed to have traffic laws to prevent accidents from happening, so when you see a red light you know you have to stop. If you break the traffic law, there are consequences; you either get a ticket or worse still you could end up in an accident and taking someone's life because you broke the law. So laws in essence are there to protect us not to "kill our fun"

In the same way when God created us and created the world he gave us rules on how to enjoy what he created without accidents happening, those rules where there to protect us and when we break those rules we face the consequences. No sex outside of marriage is one of those rules because sex is to be enjoyed in marriage where people have made a commitment to be faithful and spend the rest of their lives together.

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when we break this rule we end up with things like sexually transmitted diseases, unwanted pregnancies, abortions, men abandoning their children because they just wanted sex and weren't ready for a commitment to the woman they fathered the child with. These are the very things God is trying to protect us from and that's why he put the rules and guidelines there.

God's rules are really there because he loves us and he loves you too even though you don't believe in him and you don't believe he exists. He loves you and wants the best for you, he created you for a purpose, he wants to show you his love, he wants to give you a great future and give you a life of success and happiness, he wants to beautify your life and make your life fulfilling.

I encourage you to reach out to Jesus, and I'll encourage you to put God to the test, pray to him and ask Jesus to prove himself to you if he is really there and I am sure he will. God will not force himself on you but he will respond when you make an attempt to get to know him.

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