Important Christian Dating Relationships Advice - It's not the best idea to spend alone time with other guys if you have a boyfriend!

As someone who enjoys giving people in Christian dating relationships advice, I feel that this particular advice will be very helpful for many ladies. I felt the need to share this advice again as a result of an email I recently received.

Here is the content of that email:

I have been reading the information and advice on your site and as someone who gives good advice to people about Christian dating relationships, I though you might be able to help me with my little dilema. I have been in a relationship with this guy for 5 months now. I don't have many girlfriends or guy friends right now. My boyfriend has a lot of friends so I end up tagging along with all of his friends.

I found a guy friend who is really cool, I told him before we even hung out that I was in a relationship and that I just wanted a true friend relationship and he totally understood. So we went and hung out. While we were hanging out I told my boyfriend so he would know and he said that he was ok with it, but in reality he wasn't. So now he is upset with me and I'm just confused about if I did the wrong thing or if he is over reacting.

I would never cheat on him but I want to make friends too no matter guy or gal. I just need some advice on if going out with a guy friend was a bad choice or not.

Here is my response to her

When it comes to Christian dating relationships or any kind of relationship for that matter, It is never a good idea to hang out with another guy when you have a boyfriend, your boyfriend might say he is okay with it, but that's only because he doesn't want to come across as insecure or controlling, deep down he may know that nothing is going on and that you are not cheating but a true guy that really loves you will always be a little jealous and uncomfortable at the thought of you spending time with another guy, it is healthy jealousy because he cares about you and doesn't like the idea of another guy hanging around and possibly trying to make a move on his woman.

It is just the nature of men and guys in general, it's part of the protective nature of a guy, but I think that if you really care about this relationship then you are better off making friends with other girls, and if you want to hang out with your guy friends then make sure your boyfriend is around as well and all of you are hanging out together, that way his mind can be at peace and he doesn't have to wonder or suspect if you and your guy friend are doing anything behind his back.

I'm not at all surprised that he got a little bit upset with you, it's perfectly normal and I would have probably reacted the same way if I'm honest, but you have to understand that he reacted that way because he cares about you and can't stand the thought of you being with another guy, its healthy jealousy and like I said, it's not the best idea to spend alone time with guy friends - think about how you would feel if he was spending alone time with another girl that was his friend, even though you know its innocent, something in you would still feel a little uncomfortable.

It's not necessarily that he has trust issues, he is just trying to protect what is his.

Okay I hope that's helped, all the best and it might be a good ideas to tell your boyfriend that you now understand why he got upset and reassure him that you would never mess around behind his back, that you honestly thought he would be cool with it and that if it bothers him that much then you wont hang out with other guys unless he is there as well.

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