Help and Advice For Christian Singles Masturbating

Some Insights Into Overcoming Masturbation for Christian singles masturbating

This article was written as a reply to a question I received through my youtube channel on an issue relating to lustful thoughts and masturbation. The exact question is as follows:

Question:

I hope you can share your insight and help me. I am a single 25 year old guy and I have been struggling with lustful thoughts and masturbation for a few years. I can't seem to break free and it seems hopeless. Sometimes I can stop for a week or two but I always end up back in this rut. I am so full of shame and guilt that I wonder why I'm even still alive and if God really hears my cries anymore. I ask for forgiveness time and time again but it seems like God is so far and distant and that I've gone too far... I really do need help...

Answer:

The chances are that your addiction to masturbation started as a result of exposure to pornography, and if that is the case then the chances are that its possible that you are still using pornographic materials and that's why the problem is there.

You see, sexual acts start in the mind and that's why the bible says that even if you look at a woman lustfully you have already committed adultery with her in your heart, its possible that because of the repeated use of pornography, those images are stored in your subconscious and you are constantly imagining those pornographic images which gives birth to the desire to see more of it through pornographic films and magazines, which then leads to masturbation and the cycle keeps repeating itself until it has now become a habit that has become difficult to break and you have in a sense allowed it to become a bondage in your life.

The first step to overcoming this is to admit that you do have a problem and the fact that you are reaching out to me for help shows that you've acknowledge that so you are half way there.

The second step is that the masturbation habit didn't happen because of something you did once, you did it repeatedly until it became a habit, so it is going to take time to develop a new habit of not masturbating, in the same way you masturbated over and over for it to become a habit, you will have to practice not masturbating over and over and not watching pornographic materials over and over and feeding your mind with the word of God which cleanses over and over for you to break this grip of masturbation over your life. There is no magic wond to waive to make it all go away, you practised your way in and you will have to practice your way out.

It wont be easy but it is possible, you might even still fall from time to time while you are trying to break this habit, but falling is not an excuse to give up trying, the bible says that a righteous man may fall many times, but he doesn't stay down, he gets up and keeps trying to get it right, that is why he is a righteous man, and if that is the case then Matthew that means you are a righteous man because you don't want to stay down, you want to get up, you want to get it right, you want to please God and that is why you have reached out to me, so stop beating up on yourself thinking God is far away from you, that's just the enemy lying to you.

God never turns away a heart that is truly broken and repentant, but you must continue to fight this thing until you have the victory over it, because once you stop trying to fight it, and you just accept it as your way of life and allow it to rule you instead of you ruling it, then you no longer fall in the category of the righteous man and that is a dangerous place to be.

What I'm saying is that you have to consciously do your best not to fall into the trap of masturbation again, but even if by chance you have a day of weakness and fall, don't stay down, don't give up and quit trying to overcome masturbation, keep trying to please God and God will see your effort and give you the grace to overcome.

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