Dating A Christian That Just Gave Their Life To Christ, Is It Cool?

I mean what happens if a guy that just recently gave his life to Christ has an interest in you and asks you out on a date, you equally find him attractive and like him that way but being more mature in the faith than he is, you are concerned that it might be an issue to date a "baby Christian"

Or maybe as a guy a particular lady in church has caught your eye and attention and you are considering approaching her for a date but have some concerns because she is a new Christian.

These scenarios would lead us to ask the question of whether dating a Christian that is new in the faith is right or wrong. Some people would argue that it isn’t wrong; after all they are now "born again" and have given their life to Christ so why should it be wrong to hook up with them? It's not like you're becoming unequally yoked with an unbeliever or anything so what's the problem?

While the above point is a valid point, and a new Christian or "baby Christian" as some like to call them is still God's child, and technically it is acceptable to date someone as long as they belong to the Christian faith, but what I would say to you if you are a mature Christian, and dating a baby or new Christian is something that you're considering, is that you should fully understand what you might be getting yourself into.

If you were to hook up with someone who is a new Christian, technically you would be establishing a relationship with a spiritual baby. And though this person has faith in God, they need time to grow in the things of God and mature spiritually to a place where they understand the do’s and don’ts and other boundaries that come with being a Christian.

A new Christian that isn't yet grounded in the word might still be struggling with issues like smoking, drinking, they might have sexual issues, they might still practice things that are wrong for Christians to participate in, they might still want to go to night clubs and things of that nature because they have just recently come out of the world and need time to be fully transformed into the likeness of Christ.

If you hook up with and start dating this person they will either drag you down or you will pull them up. But remember that it is always easier to push someone down than to pull someone up. If you as a more mature Christian start dating a Christian who is new to the faith and still struggling with some of the issues I mentioned earlier, and you yourself as a mature Christian still have weaknesses in some of those areas and you both hook up, there is the potential that you could end up doing some of those wrong things with them because you're still struggling and they don't know any better because they are technically still a spiritual baby.

They now think it's okay to do those things which you ought not to do as Christians, because you have done it with them and they are looking up to you as the more mature Christian to learn what is right or wrong from you.

Secondly you need time to see whether this new Christian you are considering dating truly has given their life to Christ, some people only pretend to give their life to Christ so that they can hook up with Christian singles not because they truly have a love for God.

There is a particular story my pastor once told us of a guy who pretended to be a true believer just to hook up with this Christian lady, she fell for it, married him and after the marriage he told her that he doesn't really believe in God and that he just pretended so that he could get her, then he stopped her from going to church.

So you need to be careful before dating a new Christian, If you have developed feelings for a new Christian or someone new to the faith has approached you in a romantic type of way, my advice for Christian singles who find themselves in this situation is to allow the baby Christian to grow before dating them.

If the feeling you have for each other is truly genuine then it will still be there in a year or two while you allow them to grow, in the mean time you can build a friendship with them and even help them to grow spiritually by buying them Christian books and audio sermons, gospel music CD’s etc.

You owe it to yourself and to them to allow them to grow spiritually first before getting romantically involved with them. Some new Christians may be initially attracted to you because they admire your spirituality, but once they have had the time to grow themselves they might no longer like you in that way, they may initially gravitate towards you because they want to have the kind of relationship you have with God and they might confuse those feeling with love whereas it is really something else.

When you allow them time to grow, you can eliminate all these issues and know whether you truly have something solid to build a relationship or courtship on. Time will also let you know whether they have truly given their life to Christ as they claim.

So that's my advice for the more mature Christian that is thinking of dating a Christian that is a new believer. Like I always say, this are my personal views to help guide you when making your Christian dating decisions but ultimately you have to make your decisions as an adult and as long as you have acknowledged God in making those decisions then nobody can fault you.

"In all your ways acknowledge him and he shall direct your path" – Proverbs 3:6

God Bless

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