Dating advice for Men – Its okay to be shy to talk to her, it’s okay to be scared of getting rejected, it’s okay to be unsure about what to say to her…

Very Often we as men see a woman or a lady that we really like and for a long time all we do is observe them from a distance, especially if it’s a lady that attends the same church as you. You go home thinking about her, she’s on your mind almost 24/7, you day dream about what it would be like to have her as that special woman in your life, you might even rehearse what you would say to her were you somehow able to develop the courage to go and talk to her.

You might even get to that stage where you make up in your mind and say to yourself that "I will talk to her this Sunday when I see her at church" only for you to chicken out when you saw her and had the opportunity to make the approach because you became fearful, then you say to yourself "I’ll definitely ask her next week" and the same things happens again the next week and the week after that and the week after that until months have gone by and you haven’t even said a simple hello to her.

I know all of this because that’s exactly how it was for me when I first saw the lady who is now my wife in church. Since the first day I noticed her in church I would go home and fantasize about what it would be like to have her as a girlfriend, I would stay up till late on Saturday night practicing what I would say to her on Sunday, only for Sunday to come and I chickened out.

This went on for a while until one Sunday and it is the experience that happened to me on this particular Sunday that I want to share as my dating advice for men who find themselves in a similar situation. What happened to me that Sunday was that I decided that I was going to take the plunge and talk to her regardless of how scared and nervous I was, and believe me, I was really nervous.

To make it worse, she was actually talking to a friend of hers after the service on that Sunday which meant I would have to talk to her in front on her friend which was one of the reasons I used to chicken out of it before. One this occasion I made up my mind that I wasn’t going to postpone talking to her any longer, I was still nervous that she might respond negatively, I was still nervous that I would look like a fool and be rejected in front of her friend and that they would tease me and even gossip about it afterwards, but I wasn’t going to let my fears stop me anymore.

With sweat dripping from my armpits (I could literally feel the sweat dripping down from my arm pit to the side of my stomach) I approached her and introduced myself to her and her friend. We had a little conversation and contrary to all my fears she was quite receptive and friendly. Now with the ice broken I made up my mind that I would tell her how I felt about her the following Sunday because I knew that in order to get what I wanted I would have to overcome my fears, nervousness and shyness. That following Sunday came and it was the same nerves and fears, its not easy trying to tell a woman how you feel about her, but I had learned from the previous week that the only way to know whether there was a chance of anything happening between me and her was to face my fears and tell her anyway.

Let’s skip 5 years down the line to today, I am now married to that lady and we love each other to bits. I often wonder if my life would be the same if I didn’t approach her and allowed my being shy and nervous to stop me from pursuing the woman that I wanted. I probably wouldn’t be in the happy relationship and marriage that I am in today.

And that’s my dating advice for the men reading this right now who may be going through the same challenge.

Guys it’s okay to be shy and nervous, in fact being shy and nervous is one of the reasons that my wife gave me the time of day, she actually saw it as a quality. She later told me that it demonstrated to her that I wasn’t some overconfident womanizer; it shows respect and humility, it shows that you must really care about her if you are so scared of getting rejected by her, it makes her confident that if you are so nervous to talk to her then the chances are that you are not some player who is telling the same story to 10 other sisters.

Fellas here are a few tips you should remember when you are ready to take the plunge and talk to her

1. It’s okay to be scared of getting rejected, this feeling is normal when you really like a woman. Don’t let your fear stop you because you could be denying yourself of a lifetime of happiness.

2. It’s okay not to know what to say to her, nerves will do that to you, just start by telling her that you wanted to introduce yourself to her, tell her your name and ask her for her name and you will find that the conversation will naturally progress from there.

3. It’s okay to just tell her how you feel. You don’t need any cheesy lines, you don’t need to try and portray yourself as a ladies’ man or as someone that’s really confident, you just need to be yourself, be honest and tell her how you feel about her and leave the rest to God. If she likes you in the same way then that will be enough, you don’t need any gimmicks.

Note:The dating advice for men that I have shared in this article is not for devious guys, womanizers and so called players, who will want to use this information to try and play the shy guy in order to deceive women as part of your player strategy, most discerning women will see you for what you really are. This information is only for those truly sincere guys who are finding it difficult to express themselves to a woman they truly care about.

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