I do not think kissing is wrong, if done with clear and set boundaries.

by Danny
(Wichita, KS)

We could say that kissing leads to other things, but that reasoning doesn't really hold water simply because A LOT of things we do could lead to other things. Holding hands is a first act of showing physical attraction or expressing love through touch. Going on a date alone without a chaperon is an open invitation. We have to be reasonable and yet responsible.

Every couple should set what rules work best for them. But whatever they be, they need to be made clear where the boundaries are and what lines we just simply DO NOT CROSS! If you are going to allow kissing, then it should be clear what kind of kissing.

My girlfriend and I are dating and have every intention of getting married. We are madly in love and believe God is the center of our relationship. We have both made an agreement to wait for sex till after we are married. We both agreed hand holding and mild kissing would be acceptable (no tongues).

But, after a couple dates, we were sitting in the car about to go into the mall when she asked me to kiss her. I was shocked, but she reassured me with a smile and said "Just this one time, really kiss me. French kiss me." I was a little nervous but not hesitant. I kissed her and it was pure magic. I knew right away our love was real and that I would forever be hers. We did not sin.

Neither of us were tempted to go any further.
We have kissed a lot more since then, but still that is as far as it has ever gone or will go until we are married. Do the hormones rage? YES!!! Even just holding hands causes this for us. But, we both know waiting will make it that much more special.

God made us to be attracted to one another and it's all part of His wonderful design! We need to learn to use it, and not abuse it...