In most cases you are pretty safe with choosing not to kiss

by dani
(ny)

I have two instances. The first involves a young saved apostolic traditional ex boyfriend of mine. He told me that he didn't want to kiss me because he had had sexual sin in his past and it all stemmed from him kissing. I had pressured him one night in a phone conversation to amp up his display of affection because to me it seemed like he just didn't want to show me how he felt about me. I felt more like his buddy than his girlfriend. So the next time we saw eachother we kissed laying in my bed watching a movie which started to lead us into what would've been premarital sex but we stopped and I drove him home and we vowed to never cross eachother's boundaries again (we are no longer together but remain close friends).

The next instance is me having an adult relationship that is kinda sorted. He wasn't my boyfriend but we were friends that had no fringe benefits attached. I traveled to his place of relocation and he had asked me to fly out and see him for a few days. And after a few short weeks of protests I agreed. I flew out on the premise that nothing would happen and I made it very clear to him that I was only coming to visit and nothing intimate would occur.

Well we started to talk about relationships and how it would be if we were married. That night we got back to his apartment and I got in bed and tried to drift off to sleep he came in and we were just holding small talk (earlier in the evening I told him I have a no kissing rule) the fact is I told him that because kissing to me is very intimate. I didn't want him to kiss me casually because kissing to me means that we are serious about our relationship.

Long story short he kissed me and the next night it went even furthur. Kissing is not bad but it is intimate and if not handled properly will lead to other sexual acts to satify the open door that kissing unlocks.