Kissing Shouldn't Begin Until At The Very Least You've Made a Firm and Believable Commitment to Marrying The Person

by The Z Man
(San Diego, CA)

Kissing shouldn't begin until at the very least you've made a firm and believable commitment to marrying the person.

Because, if you start connecting body parts of any nature, like slapping sensous lip connections around,touching various body parts with your body parts, and slobbering all over the other person with a casual approach...who is going to believe that you have standards with this or other serious issues of life and where/when do other body connections begin in the relationship? It takes a millisecond to go forward. It's virtually impossible to back up.

A lifelong relationship is the second most important relationship you will commit to. If you can't control your lustful desires in a non-serious or semi-serious relationship, what standards do you hold to? If you are kissing someone who is not your spouse today, or not believably and seriously committed to being your spouse, then you are sharing body fluids with someone else's future spouse. You certainly wouldn't do that after she/he is married to someone else. Only God knows the future.

Jesus died at a point in time for all the past/present/future sins of His bride (all members of the true Church who believe in Christ for their salvation. He knows what the past present and future holds for us, in our righteousness and our sins. We should agree to sensuously kiss only the person who God knows will be our future spouse.

We should treat our "datees" as if they are already the future spouse of someone (and maybe not you), because only God really knows who they are going to marry in the future...and until you either have the ring, or have said "I do", then you don't have any believable evidence other than words (and how many times have your words and promises been wrong), and until then, you have essentially zero evidence that you are really going to walk down the isle. Things happen in life that you can't predict. So until the preacher says "you may now kiss the bride", you are just guessing at both of your committment levels.

See if the other person has self-control. Make a pact before you accept or ask for the first date. "Will you commit to me that in order to control our potential for a physical relationship to supercede our spiritual relationship...that we won't ask or attempt to kiss one another until...(a week before our wedding date, the moment the pastor says you may kiss the bride, etc).

So in order to answer the real question, you have to ask when will I be 100% assured that this person is the person that I will marry. Keep in mind, if you have ever answered this question wrong in the past, then you need to push the time-line for kissing closer to the ring exchange ceremony time.

Side Note By Paul
----I really like this comment, very thoughtful and makes a lot of sense especially the part about treating the person you are dating as someone elses future spouse since only God knows whether you'll marry them or not. Thumbs up for this comment!----