Kissing While Dating - An Atheists Perspective
by Mr Atheist
Here are a couple of comments posted by some atheists on this subject which I found interesting. You can also read my response below their comments.
Atheist #1 says:I think it's more than okay. Sex is also, of course, completely acceptable. People in the bible got married when they hit puberty, so it's unrealistic to hold ourselves to those selfsame standards. God allowed man to discover contraceptives, so we can freely express our love without worry of pregnancy or disease. :-)
Atheist #2 says:Quite frankly, it is not wrong to do anything with a consenting adult as long as it's what you both want. The only reason people feel guilt or shame after sex is because they've spent their lives visiting sites like this and hearing that they should feel guilty. Sex is a natural act, and thanks to birth control and protection, it's one that we can enjoy without fear of pregnancy or disease.
You've heard the old adage, "Who's going to buy the cow when they can get the milk for free?" Someone who loves the cow and values it for more than just the milk. If you tell people they have to wait until marriage to have sex, or even to kiss, you're just going to make two incompatible people rush into marriage so they can have sex. That's the cold, honest truth. You want to lower the divorce rates in this country? Stop telling people they should be ashamed of feeling pleasure.
i can understand why you feel the way you do about this subject but when God tells us to only experience sex with someone we have made a marital commitment to, its because he is trying to protect us. He isnt trying to stop us from expressing what is natural, in fact he created sex and wants us to enjoy sex, but within the boundaries that he created.
You made a statement that God allowed man to discover contraceptives so they can freely express love without worry of pregnancy or disease. I somewhat disagree with that.
1) If we did sex and relationships the way God intended, there would be no fear of getting pregnant or catching a disease, if you are married and faithful to your spouse and kept yourself from sleeping around, then in your marriage you won’t have to worry about unplanned pregnancy or diseases. Gods plan was one man and one woman, who would keep themselves till marriage and be faithful to one another in marriage. If the world followed Gods way then it would be a much better place.
2) Have you done your research on contraceptives? there is a married couple that I know that after having their first born were looking into different contraceptives that were safe because they wanted to wait a bit before having the next child. Their research on contraceptives (which they shared with me) revealed that most of them (contraceptives) are not safe, if you read the fine print you will discover that most contraceptives carry the risk of infertility, hence why some women who may have been on the pill for some time find it difficult to conceive. In fact with some of them, you are unknowingly aborting babies and hence why some women sometimes experience heavy bleeding when they take these contraceptives.
In response to making two incompatible people rushing into marriage, I totally agree that two incompatible people shouldn't rush into marriage - that’s why there is such a thing as waiting and practicing self control, using the time to actually get to know each other rather than giving your body to every Tom Dick and Harry. Its called having self respect and valuing yourself.
God bless and I love you all.
Read more atheist comments on this subject
http://www.reddit.com/r/atheism/comments/hmnwc/and_this_here_is_why_atheists_do_it_better/ (cut and paste the link into your browser)