You Are Too Valuable To Allow Low Self Esteem To Hold You Back

If we are all completely honest, we have all had to battle with low self esteem at one point in our lives or the other. The feeling of inadequacy, feeling like you are not good enough or not skilled or talented enough, comparing yourself with the success and achievements of others and feeling like you can never match up or even feeling unattractive and unwanted because of the way you look.

Low self esteem and lack of self confidence has at one time plagued us all and truth be told we might be successful at conquering some areas where we have experienced low self esteem but there might still be other areas that we are battling with.

The funny thing about life is that even the people we look up to, the people we sometimes measure our lives by (even though we shouldn't) are themselves dealing with this issue of low self esteem. They might have achieved great things, built great businesses, built great ministries, made so much money, live in nice houses and drive nice cars and are the envy of all people yet deep down there is still this question of I'm I really good enough? I'm I deserving of love? I'm I really capable? - it's one of the mysteries of life and that's why you should never judge your life by the seemingly success of others because you don't really know what's going on inside them because if you knew their private struggles you might decide you don't want to be like them afterall (now how did I get into all that???)

Some of the Common Causes and Reasons Why People Sometimes Have Low Self Esteem Are:

Lack of education or qualification and academic ability - Some people feel they are not good enough because they never went to school or never completed their education or maybe because they don't have a college degree. As a result they walk around with their head bowed feeling like they can never do much with their life.

Lack of Money and Debt - Some people have written themselves off because they don't have any money, many fall into this category because we have somehow attached our significance in life to the amount of money we have and the amount of material possessions we own.

Unhappiness with physical appearance i.e. weight or disability - I personal feel the media has to take some responsibility for this one, many are made to feel by the media that they have to look a certain way to be accepted, dress a certain way and be a certain weight and when their reality doesn't match up to the medias expectation, they don't feel too good about themselves.

Never validated by parents as a child - Some grew up never hearing the words "I love you", or "I'm proud of you", or "I believe in you" from their parents, they were never hugged and shown affection and as a result go through life with little confidence and feel unloved. You might have even been compared to your siblings who were seemingly more talented than you by your parents, and they might have even destroyed your confidence with words like "you are useless" or "you will never amount to anything" and those words still haunt you.

Bullied at school - For some their lack of self confidence and low self esteem is as a result of being bullied and teased at school, maybe you were that guy or girl that didn't fit in with the "popular and cool kids" maybe you were always the last to be picked when sides were being chosen for a team, maybe you never had many friends because weren't popular in school, maybe you were bullied and had your lunch money stolen and even beaten up from time to time and were left feeling weak and defenceless and those experiences have plagued and followed you right up to adulthood.

Abuse and molestation - For others their low self esteem sterns from being abused and molested. Maybe it was abuse and molestation by an uncle or aunty, maybe it was rape, maybe it was verbal and emotional abuse from past relationships, ex-boyfriend or girlfriend and people in general constantly putting you down and telling you how rubbish and useless you are.

These are just a few reasons why people develop poor self esteem and my aim is to help people build and regain their self esteem and confidence.

I want you to know that you are lovable and capable, if nobody has ever believed in you, well I believe in you, if nobody has ever told you they are proud of you, well I am proud of you - "but you don't even know me Paul" you might say and you are right that I might not know you, but one thing I do know is that you are the creation of God, a masterpiece, one of a kind - God thought about you and designed you wonderfully in fact that's why nobody else on this planet has your finger print, that's to let you know that you are one of a kind, a rare gem, a person of worth and value and that's what you need to believe about yourself regardless of your past experiences, your relationship with your parents, your economic and financial status and any other factor that might be causing you to have low self esteem.

YOU ARE LOVABLE - YOU ARE CAPABLE - AND YOU DO DESERVE GOOD THINGS TO HAPPEN TO YOU. I want you to know that and believe that about yourself.

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Recommended Resource

The Ultimate Self Esteem Formula By Dr Joe Rubino

If you want to overcome low self esteem and deal with the root cause of poor self esteem in your life, then I recommend taking a look at Dr Joe Rubino's Self Esteem Program. The program has been designed for those who want to overcome self esteem issues in areas such as health, relationships and finances. It will help you to get over your fears, worries and anxieties and help you to start to see your personal value and worth, regain your confidence so that you can maximise and fulfil your potential. It is an excellent resource and definitely worth checking out. Click Here For More Information on This Program!

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