My Thoughts

by Monica
(Fort Lauderdale, Fl)

I believe there is promiscuous behavior going on in the church. It's wrong and the very people who is telling you to obstain are the very people who are indulging. I also believe the reason why there is so much sex in the church is because people do not want to commit...especially black men.

I personally believe black men don't appreciate the black woman. Black women are being attacked by black men, black women, white men, and white women. People can find more fault in the black woman than any other woman in the world. You hear it day in and day out and it's disgraceful, and these very same men will go out and find a woman of another race and she will do and say the same things the black woman will, but now it's okay. And what's worse because this is what the WORLD is doing, but yet it's no different in the CHURCH. The black man does not want to commit because i believe he feels the world has an oasis of women waiting for him, and why should he narrow it down to one.

How does this tie to the original topic...well, when you have men who don't want to commit, but yet want to have sex and can; they will. Same with the women, they want to have sex and can; they will. Real talk, once you've had sex and enjoyed it, its something you want to do again. I beleive this is the reason why God ordained for us not to indulge in sex before marriage, becuase once you had it, you will want it again. "It's better to marry then to burn." I guess they are making the decision to burn, because they don't want to marry. Especially black women. It's a know fact, more than 42% of black women have NEVER been married...and we all know it's not because men are being turned down. We're not being asked. And several black women choose to predominately date black men, and they are not predominately dating us.