I Need Some Relationship Advice, She Wants To Breakup With Me But I Love Her To Death.

What do you do when the person you love insists on breaking up with you, especially for a stupid reason? Listen to this example from an email I received:

“so one day she just called me and said she wants me to buy her a boot of £200 and I said to her that I couldn't afford it now but she insisted that she wanted the money straight away, After trying to explain to her that I didn't have such money she said bye and I also said bye, the next thing I saw on my phone is a text from her saying she can no longer be with me because I’m too stingy towards her.....I tried to make her understand but she won’t listen...instead she kept insulting me and said she no longer want to continue with the relationship. I said good luck to her but the truth is that I really love her so dearly and I can’t live without her, I keep thinking about her every day, I tried calling her but she won’t listen, in this situation what should I do...thanks”

This relationship advice will help anyone in a similar situation, sometimes the one you love will want to break up with you for a stupid reason, naturally you will want to fight to convince them to stay, but that might not be the best thing to do. Putting pressure on someone who wants to leave you and begging them to stay might only irritate them more and make them more determined to breakup with you.... So here was my advice to the guy in question who sent me that email

Can’t believe she is ready to break up with you just because you wouldn’t give her money to buy some boots! makes me wonder whether she is only interested in receiving financial favors from you. True love will stay with you whether you have money or not, so if she is willing to end the relationship because you didn’t give her money, then maybe she doesn’t love you enough.

If you have been calling her to try and work things out and she isn’t responding, then my advice is to give her some space. Let her know that since you have been trying to work things out and she hasn’t responded that you are going to stop calling her and take it that she is no longer interested in the relationship. If she really does want the relationship to work, then she will work things out with you once she stops hearing from you.

If someone insists on leaving you, the best thing is to let them go, the more you try to convince them to stay, the more they will want to leave and if you keep calling them you might end up irritating them.

Once they leave however, if they really love you, they will come to their senses and realize that they made a big mistake by leaving you, then they will want to get back with you. If they never come to this realization, then it means that you never had a true relationship in the first place (Hope that makes sense)

Sometimes if you love something you have to let it go, if it is truly yours, then it will come back to you. The last thing you want is to keep giving your love to this girl if she doesn’t love you back the same. If she loves you and wants to be with you then she will eventually come back and work things out with you (trust me).

Now, it wont be easy, you will miss them, you will want to call, you will want to keep trying to get them to talk to you to work things out, but you cant help someone who thinks that you are their problem, who see's you as the source of their unhappiness (which or course you are not but something, some external force or influence is making them believe that at that moment in time)

But sometimes its not until somebody breaks up with you and leaves you that they realise that they made a mistake, suddenly what was blinding them is removed and they realise that they might have lost the best thing that ever happened to them (it has happened to me and that how I know) but I needed that time and space to myself to come to that realisation and once I realised it, I wasn't too proud to go back and make amends.

Its like the popular saying "you don't know what you've got till its gone"

The stray dog will come back home.

God Bless

Paul

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