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Relationship Break Up Advice – How To Break Up The Right Way and How To Handle It When Someone Breaks Up With You.

Relationship Break Up Advice If You Want To End The Relationship

1. The first relationship break up advice is: Don’t just start ignoring the person you want to break up with, I know that the easy thing to do is just start ignoring them and not calling them and hoping they never call you, and if they call you, you ignore the call and don’t pick, but that is very unfair and cruel and cowardly.

2. Give them an explanation about why you want to end the relationship. They don’t have to agree and accept your explanation but they still deserve an explanation so that they can have closure. And don’t give stupid excuses like “you are too good for me” be honest and open about your reasons.

3. The third relationship break up advice is: Don’t just send them a text saying its over or break up with them over the phone, again that’s cowardly, and although it’s the easy option because you don’t have to face them, easy doesn’t equal best. Meet up with them and talk like adults, if you are adult enough to have a relationship then you should be adult enough to break up the relationship properly.

4. The fourth relationship break up advice is: Don’t start going out with someone else straight away, because even though you are the one doing the breaking up, you also need to get over this present one and heal and get yourself together before moving on. And just in case you have already moved on and have been secretly seeing some else before you broke up with your partner (naughty) then at least try and not rub it in your ex’s face that you are in a new relationship, keep it on the d-low because it will only hurt your ex the more and will confirm the feeling they already have towards you that you are an evil person :-)

5. The fifth relationship break up advice is: Don’t try and help them get over the break up, yes you want them to know that you are not evil, so you still want to try and be there for them, but if you are still around them it will be difficult to get the message home that the relationship is over, they will still be hoping that you will change your mind and that will make it harder for them to come to terms with the break up. You need to create space between you and them, they need to know that things are different now, and whilst you shouldn’t ignore them if they need to talk about the break up, right now you don’t need to be their shoulder to cry on because you are the reason for the tears and if you are trying to be the shoulder of comfort at the same time, you are sending out mixed messages – Hope that makes sense.

6. Final note on this section of the relationship break up advice is that you shouldn’t shut the door too hard in their face, don’t do the blame game thing, don’t do the emotional manipulation thing, try and have as clean a break up as possible because the door you are shutting today you might need to reopen tomorrow and if you shut it too hard right now by ending it with a fight or doing something really cruel, then it might be impossible to open that door again in the future when you realise that you might have made a mistake and ignorantly broken up with your soul mate because you were temporarily blinded.

Relationship Break Up Advice If You Are Struggling To Cope With Someone Breaking Up With You.

1. The first relationship break up advice on coping with a break up is: If you need to cry, then cry (but not in front of them though), breaking up is hard and painful especially if you really loved them and believed that you guys would spend the rest of your lives together. No point bottling up the emotions and if crying will give you that emotional release then cry and deal with your emotions so that your heart can begin to heal, if you bottle up your anger you will never find healing and until you heal from the heartache it will be difficult to move on and have a healthy relationship with someone else.

2. Don’t blame yourself and keep asking them “what did I do wrong” and “how can I do things differently” don’t promise them you’ll change and be more of the person they want you to be. The chances are that the break up isn’t your fault, you didn’t do anything wrong, they are probably the one with the problem. They just don’t want to be with you anymore, they don’t feel the same way anymore, that’s life, it happens and it’s not your fault so don’t blame yourself for the break up and don’t beg them that you’ll change – that’s an act of desperation and you want to maintain your dignity.

3. The thrid relationship break up advice on coping with a break up is: Don’t beg them to come back and give you a second chance, it makes you look desperate, you can let them know that they’ve hurt you but don’t beg. They need to know that it’s their loss and that you will survive without them, and that not having them in your life isn’t the end of your life. If they decide that they want to come back and work things out with you, it should be because they came to a realisation that they made a big mistake by breaking up with you. Sometimes people don’t know what they have till they lose it. You don’t want them trying to work things out with you because they pity you or feel sorry for you or because you begged, you deserve someone who wants to really be with you not someone who is staying out of pity.If they stay out of pity, it won’t work anyway, they can only pity you for so long, if their heart is no longer with you and with someone else, then its best to let them go. God probably has someone better for you anyhow (I’m speaking from experience)

4. The fourth relationship break up advice on coping with a break up is: Create space between you and them and if possible try not to be in contact with them for a while, it’s hard to get over someone you still see and talk to everyday so create distance and resist the temptation of stalking them or showing up at their house unannounced , calling them repeatedly and then when they don’t pick up your call, calling on private number so they don’t see your caller i.d – don’t do that, it won’t get them to come back, it will only annoy and irritate them the more.

5. The whole “lets still be friends thing” doesn’t really work – at least not until you are over them, it’s hard to go from loving someone so much to just being friends, besides its hard to just be friends with someone that broke your heart so bad, to be honest it just an excuse we use to try and remain close to them with the hope of getting back together. I personally feel that if someone wants to break up with you, you should let them go, yes that’s easier said than done and it will be hard but that is the best thing to do. You don’t want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with you, love should be reciprocal and mutual, you don’t want someone that you love but won’t love you back so let them go.

If it is really meant to be and they made a mistake, they will realise that later because they will be miserable without you and if they are smart, they will swallow their pride and come back begging, and even if they never come back begging then you’ve saved yourself a life time of being with someone you were never meant to be with.

Final note on this relationship break up advice is that, them breaking up with you is not the end of your life, for every disappointment in life God always has something better in store, it was after my ex broke my heart that I met my wife and I thank God now that my ex broke my heart because it created room for me to meet and marry the person God had for me, don’t hold onto a relationship God is trying to kill, you might be blocking something better. And as far as my ex is concerned, it’s her loss now and I realise that she never deserved me anyways, not bragging but I was too good for her and I was settling for way less than I deserved.

6. Okay one more! The sixth relationship break up advice on coping with a break up is: Don’t start another relationship straight away because chances are that you are on the rebound and you will end up hurting the new person. You need to heal first, you are not emotionally stable yet to be with someone else, you would only be using them to either get your ex jealous or fill an emotional void and that it not cool.


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