Does no sex before marriage still apply if he is a really nice guy and we both love eachother?

So I'm dating a really great guy. He's sweet and treats me so well.He believes in God and his son Jesus. He is open minded, and does not disclaim other things, but knows he believes and loves God. But, lately, he has been wanting to have sex, and the thing is I've been wanting to also.

The only thing that stops me is my fear of losing him because I disobey, and the fact that most break up after it. He tells me he wants to marry me and even have a family, and reassured me that he wouldn't leave me, that he really loved me and wanted to lose his virginity to me and I feel the same.

He's not the player type at all I'm his first girlfriend and we've been together for almost two years. He even wants to protect me by wearing a condom, me getting on birth control, and both of us going to health clinics to get help about protections.

And I swear he is not the type to lie about wanting all that, and that’s whatmakes this so hard. He has been such a blessing to my life, and I believe God himself brought him into my life. I love him so much, and heloves me back. So what should I do? I need help.

My Thoughts and Advice on This Issue:

com’on, you already know what to do, no matter how strong the temptation and no matter how good a guy he is and how caring he is and how much of a blessing he is to your life, none of that is a good reason why you should disobey God, in fact there is no acceptable reason to disobey God no matter how good or logical your reasons for wanting to do so is. Sex before marriage is not acceptable period! It isn’t debateable, we can’t choose and pick which part of Gods laws we want to obey. Sex is for married couples, that’s the way God designed it and that’s the way God wants it, and if we truly have given our lives to God and he is lord and owner over our lives then we must do things his way and not our way.

You see, sex isn’t something you just do casually, not even if you love eachother, sex is not just a comfort or feel good thing that two people in love share. The primary purpose of sex is to seal a marriage covenant, a covenant that binds a husband and wife together for life and to seal that covenant, blood is involved because it is a blood covenant, that’s why blood rushes to the male organ to get the guy aroused and ready and blood is shed from the female once the hymen is penetrated, this seals the blood covenant and if you know anything about blood covenants then you will know that it took a blood covenant to save us from our sins, Jesus had to shed his blood to seal that covenant, and that is what sex does, it seals a covenant. I talk more about this in my video “Sex is about blood”

You know, if this guy loves you as much as he says he does, then he will wait for you, true love waits and what you compromise to get you will eventually lose. He has no right to your body when your Dad has not handed you over in marriage to him, you are not yet his property, he has not paid the price for you, why do you think a father gives his daughter away in marriage, by doing that, a father is saying, “I trust you with my daughter, you have proven to me that you are worthy and deserving of her, you have paid the price to be with her and now I hand her over to you so that the two of you can become one flesh” he has no right to your body until your Dad has given you away in marriage.Sex is the act of becoming one flesh, it isn’t something you take likely, it isn’t something you do just because it feels right, it is a deep spiritual thing with spiritual implications. Don’t be too eager to give away your body to a guy that hasn’t paid the full price for you, no matter how good a guy he is, you might regret it later.

It’s because you both know it’s wrong that why you want to go on birth control, because you know the shame that comes with getting pregnant outside of marriage, when two people are married there is no shame when a woman gets pregnant even if they didn’t plan the pregnancy, it is always celebrated because it was done within the right boundaries, you are trying to protect yourself from the possible shame and that’s why you are planning birth control.

If you start having sex, will it be something you are proud of, can you proudly tell your friends and family and Pastor that you are having sex outside of marriage? If you have to hide it from them then you know that you are doing something wrong.

Like I said earlier, what you compromise to get you will lose and there are always consequences for disobeying God. In the book of 2 Samuel Chapter 11 King David compromised and had sex with a woman that wasn’t his wife, she got pregnant but God allowed the child to die because the child was conceived in sin even though David prayed and fasted that the child would live. And even though David eventually married this woman and had another child with her, that child that he had with her went on to be the most sexually promiscuous person in the bible (King Solomon) because the seed of sexual immorality had been sown by his parents. So you see, you remaining sexually pure is not just for your sake but for the sake of your child also, you don’t want them to be under a generational curse because of your sins and disobedience.

There is also the danger that once you “give it up” and have sex with him, there will be no motivation for him to marry you because he is already enjoying all the benefits for free, and if later he decides he wants to walk away from the relationship, it will be easy for him to walk away because you guys aren’t married, so you would have sold yourself cheap and he would have walked away with your virginity and bragging rights to your body having slept with you.

No matter how much you think you are in love and think that you are soul mates and will eventually get married, the fact remains that you are not married, you would only be playing married couples without the legal contract, and people change their minds, you might even change your mind! the person I thought I was going to get married to 10 years ago is not the person I am married to today, no matter how sure marriage seems between the two of you, there is no guarantee that the two of you will get married until you are both at the altar saying “I Do” things happen so be careful and don’t short change yourself and sell yourself cheap.

If he loves you then let him wait for you, if he truly loves God then why is he trying to make you disobey God and sin. You can’t claim to love God but then willingly disobey him, you can’t say you love God with your mouth when your heart is far away from him and your actions don’t reflect your love for him. Jesus said that if you love me you will obey my commandments (John 14:15). The evidence of your love for God is not the fact that you say it with your mouth but that your actions reflect it. Hope you understand what I’m trying to say and hope you do the right thing.

God Bless

PaulDatingadvice4christiansingles.com

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