Sexual Intimacy In Marriage Is One Of The Vital Keys To Marital Fulfilment

When there is no sexual intimacy in marriage it usually means two things, either there is no sex in the marriage at all “a sexless marriage” where the couple don’t really find sex fulfilling and therefore now avoid it altogether, or there is sex in the marriage but either one or both parties in the marriage are just tolerating sex, they don’t find it pleasurable or enjoyable, it’s just something they do to get their spouse off their back, this in itself will ultimately result in the first case “a sexless marriage”

Sexual intimacy in marriage is needed for continuous reassurance to your spouse that you still find them desirable, nothing can be worse than feeling like your spouse is no longer attracted to you and wants to enjoy sex with you, and when I’m talking about sexual intimacy I am not necessarily talking about sexual intercourse, part of sexual intimacy is just showing physical affection, a passionate kiss, a gentle stroke on the face or even just holding hands and embracing each other.

Sexual intimacy in marriage says to your spouse, I still want you, I’m still attracted to you, you are still desirable, you still turn me on, it is a non verbal way of saying “I’m still in love with you” it reaffirms your love for one another and that is very important in marriage.

If you have been struggling in the area of sexual intimacy in your marriage then the best thing to do is not to ignore it but to do something about it. Some spouses as a result of lack of sexual intimacy in their marriage have ended up having extra marital affairs all because they weren’t getting that need met in their marriage. Simply ignoring the problem will not make it go away.

If there are challenges in the area of sexual relations in your marriage for example maybe you don’t know how to please your wife or you don’t know how to please your husband, or maybe the husband is suffering from premature ejaculation or any other type of sexual dysfunction and as a result sex has become something to be avoided in your relationship or something that even causes fights and quarrels because of the frustration that comes from not being satisfied sexually, then the best thing to do is to get help, there is nothing wrong with having problems, but there is something wrong if you refuse to do nothing about the problem – the problem will simply get worse not better.

If you are therefore looking for some help on how to improve sexual intimacy in marriage, maybe things have gotten so bad that rarely have sex these days and you are looking for ways to overcome that problem or maybe things are fine sexually but you are just looking for how to add more spice to the sex in your marriage then let me recommend these two books to you that will really help. These are books that I personally own that have really helped my wife and I in this area and I recommend that you purchase a copy for yourself.

For the men (even though the woman should read it as well ) I recommend “sexual skills for the Christian husband” and for the women I recommend “Sexual satisfaction for the Christian Wife” trust me when I say that these two books could possibly be the best investment you will ever make into improving the sexual intimacy in your marriage, there might be one or two things in the books that you don’t agree with i.e. there is stuff in there about oral sex, and not everybody is into that (I must warn you) but on the whole you will find it very useful. If you read something in there that you don’t like simply spit out the seeds and eat the grapes.