Single Ladies, Could Your Attitude Be Keeping Your Man Away From You?

As a result of that one incident, my attitude towards her changed, although I didn’t react to her actions and her rude behavior,but within me I knew that she had destroyed the relationship we had as colleagues in the same department at church and even though I used to get along with her,now I keep my distance. It’s not that I am holding a grudge but it’s because as a man and as most men will tell you, I can’t stand disrespect.

You see, deep down she might possibly be a nice person, deep down she might not have meant to disrespect me or to be rude but I can’t see her inside, I can’t tell whether she’s really a nice person or not, all I have to go by is the way she addresses me and her behaviour and based on that I concluded that she is rude and that she has a bad attitude and as a result I now keep my distance from her because as a man I can’t stand the disrespect.

Interestingly, this same lady desires marriage, she even speaks in faith about getting married but she is still single and isn’t seeing or dating anyone (I wonder why).

You see ladies; you have to be careful. This same girl I’m sure would be wondering why guys are not approaching her, this same girl might be wondering why she so much desires marriage but God doesn’t seem to be bringing anyone her way. Well maybe God already brought the guy but you pushed him away with your bad and disrespectful attitude.

Let’s imagine I was a single guy, and I had been admiring this same girl that was rude to me from a distance and waiting for the perfect opportunity to make my move. Do you think I would still be interested in her after the way she spoke to me? Trust me, that would have been it and I would have lost all feelings as well as any respect I might have had for her.

Men need to feel respected, as a matter of fact; men don’t really need love as much as they need respect. As a single lady still believing God for a life partner, be careful how you talk to the men around you, the logic of a man is that if you are rude to one guy, then what’s the guarantee that you won’t be rude and disrespectful to me if I was your man.

Even if as a lady you are in a position of authority and need to be firm with people, there is a right way and a wrong way to do it. Everything must still be done in love, you must still consider that this person you are talking to is a human being with feelings and emotions just like yourself and the same way you want to be respected is the same way they want to be respected, the same way you would feel offended when you are disrespected is the same way they would feel offended if you disrespect them.

No matter how beautiful you are, no matter how nice your hair and makeup is, no matter how well you dress, if you don’t know how to talk to a man and respect and give him the praise and esteem that he needs, you will probably never get a man, and if you do by some luck get a man you will push him away with your bad attitude.

Haven’t you noticed that there are some ladies who are not beauty queens but they have respect for people and a lovely and warm personality and they end up with a very nice guy that loves them, adores them and is ready to settle down and marry them. On the other hand there is the beautiful girl who dresses nice, her hair is always on point, her makeup is spot on, she is well packaged but her attitude stinks, she doesn’t know how to talk to people, she is rude and disrespectful and she wonders why she is still single.

Ladies it’s not always about beauty. Beauty will attract him but it’s your character and personality that will keep him. A man needs his respect and will back off from you if he feels disrespected.

So ladies be careful, choose your words carefully especially when talking to men, if there is a misunderstanding ,make sure you clarify things instead of trying to prove a point. Be careful that your attitude isn’t keeping your man away from you.

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