The 'waiting on the Lord' game

by Nancy
(London )

Yes some men seem to have problems committing to a relationship, but note, this happens in and out of church (so it's not just an issue with Christian guys).

If you are 'dating' a man with whom you are not in a relationship, you need to ask yourself how that came about in the first place. What did he tell you of his intentions when he approached you?

A true Christian relationiship is clearly defined from the onset; a man knows what he wants from you before he approaches you. I beleive that before a Christian guy initiates a relationship with a lady he must have already prayed about it and had a confimation from God before approaching the lady with his intentions.

This way you eliminate the issue of "I'm waiting to hear from God". If you find yourself just sitting on the fence in what is supposed to be a relationship, in most cases, the reason might be that you each have a different understanding of the kind of relationship you are in, probably because your intentions were not clear to one another from the start. Hence, the reason why your expectations seem to be unfufilled.

Because of issues like this, ministers often encourage singles to seek their counsell before entering into a relationship. I've previously found myself in a similar predicament, and what did I do about it? I ended it before it went out of hand.. So ladies (or gentlemen), I'd recommend you seek counsell and ask God for guidiance if you find yourself in the same situation.

Finally, it's not only men that play the "waiting on the Lord" game; and remember not all men that attend church are really Christians (same goes for women), but by their fruits you shall know them.