How to Find, Meet and Keep a Godly and Beautiful Christian Woman of Your Dreams

In this article, I will be sharing some Christian dating and relationship advice for men on how to find the woman of your dreams. This is not one of those cheesy articles floating around the web on how to find the woman of your dreams; this is real advice from me to you on how I did it.

I will basically be telling you how I found the woman of my dreams (my beautiful wife Faith). The following tips are basically taken from my personal experience. I took some time to really think about some of the things that I did that allowed me to find, meet and keep the woman of my dreams who is now my wife and the result of that reflection are the tips I want to share with you.

If you are truly serious about finding and meeting a beautiful and godly woman that you can spend the rest of your life with, then this will help you. If you are just looking to get laid and play around with women then this isn't for you - in fact this website isn't for you and you are better off going to some other site.

Okay, with that said, let get right into it!

Let God direct you

As a Christian man, the first step you need to take to find the woman of your dreams is to let God direct you to the woman - which means praying regularly and spending time in fellowship with God, asking God to lead you to the right woman for you.

If you are familiar with my articles, then you would have come across the story of how I met my wife. God orchestrated my steps so that I somehow ended up in the church she was attending at the time, which was a relatively small and unknown church, I came from the biggest church in the UK at the time. God lead me to her church, we met there and not long after she came back with me to my church and the rest is history. The person God has for you might not attend your local church, but if you allow God to lead you and you put God first in all you do, God will make your paths to cross.

Take pride in your appearance and hygiene

If you want to attract the woman of your dreams, then there has to be something attractive about you, you don't have to be the most handsome guy in the world, but you do have to make an effort. Take pride in your appearance, shave regularly, wear nice clothes and make sure they are ironed, wear nice shoe, exercise regularly and try and stay in shape, she might want a godly and spiritual man but she also wants him to look good.

Hygiene is also very important, bad breath and body odour is a big no no, even if she liked you, if your hygiene isn't up to par, it could mess things up. So invest in some breath mints and a good deodorant and fragrance.

Get to know her - Build a frienship

When you believe that God is speaking to you about a particular lady and you feel a release to go and talk to her, then go and do just that - Talk to her! I am amazed at the number of guys who like a girl but are too scared to even say hello to her. She isn't going to kill you for saying hello. Just go up to her and introduce yourself - here's what I said to my wife when I talked to her for the first time "hi, I'm Paul, I just wanted to introduce myself, I've been seeing you around in church and I've never talked to you and I figured I'd come and say hello" - it's that simple to start a conversation and once the ice is broken you can then talk about other things.

Once you've opened the lines of communication with her, then it will be easy to start building a friendship, you are now no longer strangers, you are now on talking terms, you can now say hello to her every time you see her.

Let her know you are interested

While it's good to build a friendship you already know that deep down you want a lot more than just friendship. You've been admiring her and now you are talking with her and you are friends with her, don't leave it too long before you let her know that you are actually interested in her in a romantic way. I must admit that I was a bit forward when it came to this part, I introduced myself to my wife one week, and the next week I was telling her... and these were my exact words "we can be friends for now but I would want something more in the future" - she looked at me like I was crazy but still gave me her number when I asked.

See that's the thing when God is leading you, you might be too forward in your approach but God will somehow still make things work out and she will find herself liking you despite of your not so great approach - well at least that's how it worked out for me.

I wouldn't advice you to use those exact same words but do let the girl know you are interested from the get go, so that you both know what is going on and you don't get a "I thought we were just friends" in the future. Also, if you make your intentions know early on, she will let you know whether there is a possibility of something more or not, in which case you know where you stand with her.

Its okay to be scared to talk to her

When you find the woman of your dreams, at some point you are going to have to talk to her, the average guy is very scared and nervous to approach a woman, but you are going to have to face your fears. I would never advice getting someone else to speak to her for you, I think women appreciate it more when a guy is bold enough to come and talk to them himself.

You cant get the woman of your dreams if you are too scared to talk to her, so get rid off your fear and embrace the spirit of boldness God has given you

Be honest

Don't be cheesy and don't try to use any dumb chat up lines, don't be cocky and don't try to be a smarty pants or a wise guy. Just be real and honest about who you are, how you feel about her and what you want from her. Say it the way it comes to you, sometimes its not the words that matter to the woman but the heart and sincerity you say it with. If you like her, tell her you like her, if you find her attractive, tell her you find her attractive, if you think she has a beautiful smile, tell her, if you think she is really pretty, tell her. Be honest about what you feel for and what you want from her

Invest in her spiritual growth

One of the things I did as I got to know my wife, even before she agreed to date me (she made me wait 6 months by the way but I was persistent) was that I began to invest in her spiritual growth. I began to make her CD's of gospel music that I knew she would appreciate, I also began to recommend books for her to read that I knew would help her spiritual growth. By doing that she knew that I cared about her walk with God that I wasn't just interested in her physical appearance but I was also interested in her developing as a woman of God. Christian Women admire a man who can help them grow spiritually.

Develop yourself spiritually - Christian women want a man who can be their spiritual covering

Christian women want a man that can be the spiritual head of the home, most Christian women will tell you that their ideal man is a man that knows how to pray and a man that knows the word of God and can teach her the word of God. The chances are the woman of your dreams is looking for the same qualities in her ideal man, and when you prove to be that man, a man that is not only good looking in appearance but also God fearing, a praying man who knows the word and can help her grow, you will have a better chance of getting her to be your woman.

Just be yourself - don't try to be someone you're not

Be you, if you portray yourself as something or someone you are not just to get her to like you, then you will have to keep on being a fake to keep her. Be proud of who you are, and be you, if you are funny be funny, if you are shy be shy, if you are quiet, be quiet, just be yourself, be real, let her see the real you, so that when she falls for you she falls for the real you.

When I met my wife, I didn't have a car, I used to pick her up in my friends car but I let her know that the car wasn't mine, and even though I said to take pride in your appearance, still dress like you, wear what you feel comfortable in but still make it look good. There were time when my wife and I were still getting to know each other that I'd go pick her up in a basketball jersey and sandals, I was just me, but I made it look good!

Keep regular contact but don't stalk

Once you are privileged to get her number, keep in regular contact but don't overdo it, if you are still at that stage where you are just friends getting to know each other, you don't need to call her 5 times a day, you don't even have to call every day, keep in regular contact but be reasonable and sensible about it.

Dont cheat or date other girls secretly

And please when you do eventually start dating the woman of your dreams, please be faithful to her. There are some men that even when they have the most beautiful woman in the world they are still looking at other women and tempted to go after other women. The truth is, even when you find the woman of your dreams, there will still be attractive women out there, some of whom might even try to lure you away, please don't fall for their trap. Be a faithful man, don't be dating multiple girls at the same time, in essence where Christian dating differs from worldly dating is that as Christian we should date with courtship and marriage in mind and therefore there should be a level of commitment and faithfulness.

Nothing will lose you the woman of your dreams quicker than unfaithfulness so don't do it.

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